{"id":1570,"date":"2018-02-21T07:38:28","date_gmt":"2018-02-21T07:38:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sagia.ro\/v2\/fistic-iu\/?p=1570"},"modified":"2019-06-11T23:31:02","modified_gmt":"2019-06-11T20:31:02","slug":"scrisori-catre-fiica-mea-scrisoarea-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sagia.ro\/v2\/fistic-iu\/scrisori-catre-fiica-mea-scrisoarea-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Scrisori c\u0103tre fiica mea (scrisoarea 2)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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– \u00a0Desp\u0103r\u0163iri –<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Draga mea,<\/p>\n

“Niciodat\u0103 nu a fost s\u0103 nu fie cumva”, zice o doamn\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleapt\u0103 pe care eu o respect foarte mult. Cu asta \u00een minte trebuie s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 mereu mai exist\u0103\u00a0o fa\u0163\u0103 a monedei, o alt\u0103 opinie, o alt\u0103 versiune a pove\u015ftii. Dac\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 ai aplicat plenar “ce \u0163ie nu \u00ee\u0163i place, altuia nu \u00eei face” – \u015fi cu asta promit s\u0103 termin cu \u015firul vorbelor cu t\u00e2lc \ud83d\ude42 – hai s\u0103 vedem ce a pricinuit sup\u0103rarea.<\/p>\n

Pasul 1 sau premisa: Conteaz\u0103 pentru tine.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 fie clar, nu te po\u0163i sup\u0103ra pe un str\u0103in, pe un oarecare! Te enerveaz\u0103, te deranjeaz\u0103, poate te \u00eenfurie, etc. Te superi, adic\u0103 face r\u0103u sufletului t\u0103u, te doare \u015fi te \u00eentristeaz\u0103, ceea ce face un apropiat, un prieten, cei dragi. Dup\u0103 aceea\u015fi g\u00e2ndire care spune c\u0103 pentru a fi dezam\u0103git, trebuie \u00eenainte s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i fi f\u0103cut iluzii \ud83d\ude42 Adic\u0103, dac\u0103 nu am sperat nimic, ce s\u0103 m\u0103 dezam\u0103geasc\u0103?!<\/p>\n

Ei bine, dac\u0103 \u015ftim c\u0103 e important pentru tine, \u015ftim versiunea ta despre cele petrecute, trecem la pasul doi.<\/p>\n

Pasul 2: Discu\u0163ia<\/p>\n

Abilitatea de a comunica este cel mai pre\u0163ios dar al omului. \u00cenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eel folose\u015fti \u00een avantajul t\u0103u. Spune ceea ce ai de spus, clar \u015fi asigur\u0103- te c\u0103 mesajul s-a \u00een\u0163eles. Ascult\u0103 cealalt\u0103 versiune \u015fi fii preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 te \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fti la mijloc (parte din negociere este s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u00e2t vrei s\u0103 cedezi).<\/p>\n

Negocierea este de asemenea parte din via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi, fie c\u0103 \u015ftim sau nu, o facem to\u0163i din prima clip\u0103. Negociem cu mami, c\u00e2nd suntem bebelu\u015fi: \u00eemi dai suzeta nu mai \u0163ip; negociem cu familia, c\u00e2nd suntem mai mari: dac\u0103 m\u0103 l\u0103sa\u0163i afar\u0103, duc gunoiul; ca s\u0103 mergi \u00een tab\u0103r\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 ai note de xxxxxx; ca s\u0103 muncesc vreau salariul acesta, etc To\u0163i o facem, doar c\u0103 unii sunt mai abili, al\u0163ii nu.<\/p>\n

Afl\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti \u00een permanent\u0103 negociere cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i. De exemplu, atunci c\u00e2nd alegi cum s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i folose\u0219ti timpul ai negociat cu tine \u00een folosul a ceva ce vrei tu. Fie mergi \u00een camp cu cerceta\u0219ii, fie mergi \u00een tab\u0103r\u0103. Ai motive de pro \u015fi contra \u00een ambele situa\u0163ii. C\u00e2nd ai ales una, ai renun\u0163at la alta pentru ni\u015fte motive care au c\u00e2nt\u0103rit mai mult. Sau: \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 doua ore, adica \u00eemi iau doua ore din timpul meu pentru ca s\u0103 primesc nota, informa\u0163ii, etc….<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar, nu ar trebui s\u0103 dai \u00eenapoi. Discu\u0163iile scot la iveal\u0103 versiuni ale aceleia\u015fi pove\u015fti la care nu te-ai g\u00e2ndit. Aici \u00eencepe negocierea. Ascult\u0103, observ\u0103 \u015fi \u00een\u0163elege dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 accep\u0163i aceea variant\u0103, sau, \u015fi mai bine, dac\u0103 g\u0103si\u0163i \u00eempreun\u0103 o variant\u0103 mai bun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Fii cu b\u0103gare de seam\u0103! Cuvintele sunt arme. Corect folosite aduc victoria, prost folosite e \u00eenfr\u00e2ngere sigur\u0103. Pentru c\u0103, nu-i a\u015fa, uneori cuvintele nu sunt doar cuvinte! Nu neglija for\u0163a unui verb.<\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0163i recomand “Primul contact” un film \u015ftiintifico -fantastic metafor\u0103, care arat\u0103 exact for\u0163a unui verb. C\u00e2nd toata lumea se preg\u0103tea de r\u0103zboi pentru c\u0103 au \u00een\u0163eles ARME ca fiind semn c\u0103 extratere\u015ftrii vor ataca lumea, o lingvist\u0103 primea ARME ca s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 lumea lor.<\/p>\n

Pasul 3 Concluzii<\/p>\n

Odat\u0103 stabilit\u0103 linia de mijloc, sau nu, lucrurile vin natural. Poate doare. Poate… nu at\u00e2t de tare… Cine \u015ftie?! Dar, sigur vei putea spune c\u0103 ai f\u0103cut ceea ce \u0163inea de tine pentru c\u0103 nimeni s\u0103 nu piard\u0103. Atunci c\u00e2nd cineva pleac\u0103 din via\u0163a ta pierde toat\u0103 lumea, dar dac\u0103 decizia este luat\u0103 dupa discu\u0163ii, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 a\u015fa trebuia s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple \u015fi ve\u0163i avea triste\u0163i, dar nu regrete.<\/p>\n

cu drag, mami<\/p>\n

O zi f\u0103r\u0103 cusur<\/p>\n

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surs\u0103 foto: internet<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

+30 – \u00a0Desp\u0103r\u0163iri – Draga mea, “Niciodat\u0103 nu a fost s\u0103 nu fie cumva”, zice o doamn\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleapt\u0103 pe care eu o respect foarte mult. Cu asta \u00een minte trebuie s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 mereu mai exist\u0103\u00a0o fa\u0163\u0103 a monedei, o alt\u0103 opinie, o alt\u0103 versiune a pove\u015ftii. Dac\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 ai aplicat plenar “ce \u0163ie […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1578,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_s2mail":"yes","footnotes":""},"categories":[718],"tags":[32,639,61,453,642,58,641,640,644,138,643,63],"yoast_head":"\nScrisori c\u0103tre fiica mea (scrisoarea 2)<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Desp\u0103r\u021biri. Cuvintele sunt arme. 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